Feeling trapped in your relationship?

I know you love your wife, BUT you don’t feel ‘in love’ with her anymore and it makes you feel guilty…..

You’ve drifted apart, going through the motions, just talking about logistics and children. It feels like she’s not interested in you, your work or how you spend your time.

Your children always go to her unless they want money and then they’re quick to come to you. You’re envious of her relationship with them, BUT you could never admit it to her, or perhaps even yourself because you think you should have been more present when they were younger. It hurts and then the guilt starts…

You’re lonely, even though you are around people all day long, and that loneliness is heightened in the bedroom where sex has become the elephant in the room.

Maybe you’ve considered having an affair, or maybe you have, BUT it didn’t fill the void, it just amplified the loneliness. And now you feel guilty and your chimp (inner voice) is keeping you up at night in case she finds out.

AND how much would a divorce cost you…… AND what would your children, parents, friends, neighbours [insert your preferred judger here] think of you? AND you don’t want to hurt her. AND do you even want a divorce anyway?

Let me reassure you, life doesn’t have to feel like this. You can have a great relationship with your wife again, if you want to. It’s YOUR choice because it’s YOUR life.

Let me share with compassion that all great relationships start with the most important one. The relationship with yourself. If you are going to have the relationship you dream of, you must learn to love yourself first.

If you’d like some help with that, arrange a call with me.